Good for you. Yeah, cuz I mentioned that one of the things in running a marathon, you've got plenty of time to talk to yourself.

And the inner dialogue is important. Because when you are on the 50th kilometer or the 30th mile, there's a lot of negative dialogue happening and you want to give up. So internal self talk is very important to be able to flip it on its head and say you can do it, you got to get to the end. And you got blisters on your toes. And you're, you know, your toes are bleeding and you're not feeling so good.

Yeah, and I can Yeah, I can just hear the voice in your in your head going. You're not going to make it. You look terrible. Everyone looks better than you. That's right. That's right. Yes. And then the funny thing is, when you cross that finish line, all of a sudden the conversation changes and to start saying, See, I told you you could do it. See I told you you could do it all along.

No, the other conversation that's happening in your head is I'll never do this crazy thing again. Never, never never. And then the next day after bath and a good sleep, you wonder what it's like doing it in the other direction from city to city, different hills, different Dales different scenery going the other direction. So it's so interesting how we can talk ourselves into things out of things. And then perhaps on to the next thing.

And one of the one of the the topic that we'll address today is a personalities, various personalities. And you are expert in with the use of a personality test that goes back maybe 1000 years or more called the n in It's a Greek word and my Greek I'm not up on my Greek other than me. No Greek. I can't think of any Greek right now. But it's it any Enneagram

that's great. Enneagram That's right. Yes. So the turn a half 1000 years old George are many Enneagram assessments around the world. The one that I tend to use is the New York assessment from the Enneagram Institute, because it has been around the longest, and it's validated, and it's reliable. So it's a really great assessment from the New York Institute called the Enneagram Institute.

And typically with these personality analysis, it says there's different traits that we might be more innate or stronger or where we're at our best, we might be able to venture into other other skills but there's something we always return to our innate innate skill set our innate, go to when, when there's no place else to go. Is that fair?

 

Correct. That's correct. And actually, that's, that's well possible, could we just go back to that innate skill, and the research, George shows that we are born one of these non personality types. So our brain we know is hard wired in the womb. So when we're in our mother's stomach, our brain is already being hardwired. And the set of behaviours is peculiar to that personality style. 

And then nine different Enneagram styles. And the interesting research shows that even identical twins, so Georgia, if you had an identical twin brother, you would have different personality styles, your brains would be hardwired differently in your mother's womb. And so it's really interesting, because the nature nurture debate is alive and well. But actually from a nature hardwiring, we are hardwired, one of these non personality styles. And to your earlier point, which was a good point is that, you know, obviously, we can use all non behaviour sets, but we are will go back to that innate one that we were born it certainly in times of stress.

And why is it important for us to understand our, our strongest personality type?

Because for personal growth and personal transformation, you need to know your own personality tat to say, rat journey, you know, if your personality type is called the top three in the Enneagram, then, you know, what is the fear of the top three, you know, what does that shatter kind of fear, you and I spoke a few minutes ago about the internal dialogue. And that's can be largely driven by the fear and the desires of their personality tab, and then the attitude of their personality type. So if you know, with specificity, which one you were born, you can start to self manage in different ways, so that your fears and your blind spots Don't trip you up. And you can personally grow and be able to self manage differently, and then communicate in different ways to different personality styles to other people who are born different personality styles.

 

And for folks who are wondering, okay, well, what are these personality styles, and there's nine of them, which is a little bit of a long list. So I don't expect people to memorise it, but they might be interested. And my guess is, if we were to list these person, these, this list of nine, that there's one that will probably jump out for each listener that Bill identify with, and I know when I when I glanced through it myself, I said, Oh, well, that's me. That's me. Or at least I think that's me. And so let's just list those, that nine for people. So they have an idea of okay, here's few could be your one of these nine.

 

Yes. And actually, that's a lovely, fun thing to do. And very often I do that is I'll just list the noun and about 80% of people put their hands up and go, Yeah, that's me. That's me. That's me, which is lovely. So let's start. I'm going to use the narrative of the Enneagram Institute in New York, different Enneagram schools around the world, we have different labels for each of the nine. 

But I particularly like that The New York labels. So the top I'll start with one that's easy to identify if you're born this tab, and that is the tab h we call them the challenger. So this is a man way or the friggin highway type person, very self confident, very decisive. I call a spade a shovel, can be blunt, can be threatening, and very decisive and very forward looking. So they're trailblazers, they make change in the world. Of course, they can be you know, tyrannical and, and, you know, steamroll people, but they also can make really good change in the world. And just recently, it's been a Martin Luther King day in America. And we believe that he was born atop age. So there's someone who a challenger who was, you know, made really good change in the world. So that's the top age and I carry on George

 

On base. Okay. So the numbers rather than letters. Okay, so the top nine, which is the neighbour to the top eight, they are called the peacemaker. So they're more withdrawn, they're quieter. They are really receptive. There. Right, if you look at the symbol of the Enneagram, which is a circle with a whole lot of lines in between there right at the top of the circle, and they're looking at all the elements and how to pull things together, so they're often quiet.

They're great observers, they're quite creative. They dislike conflict. So as much as the Challenger can eat conflict for breakfast, the top eight goes, Whoa, no, let's avoid that conflict. Let's avoid let's keep the peace. Let's keep the peace. So hence they call it the peacemaker. The third is the top one that I'm going to describe. And we give them two names. But the normal name is the piece. They're perfectionist. And because they lack detail, they like to dot the i's cross the T's, spreadsheets, real detail. And but they actually when you tow a tap one, look, you know, you've done the assessment, you were born a tap one, they did test that word, the perfectionist, they prefer the word the reformer. 

So here's another great leader example actually, tap one we believe Nelson Mandela, our very own president of South Africa, who passed on a few years ago, Nelson Mandela we brought, we think he was born attack one read, principled, read, purposeful, read diligent personalities. And now what about the tap to the helper? Those are the people, Georgian teens that are always, you know, going to the next team member or a new team member to say, How can I help you do need the past code, you need the Wi Fi code, you know, if you're going to present this at the board, these are the key influences you need to speak to. 

So they're great communicators, and they're great people who reach out to others, and help and connect. And they really are great people, people. They're incredibly observant of, you know, what is the coach and the team? And what is the happiness factor in the team lack and bits make sure that people are working together? Well, the number three on the Enneagram is called the achiever. I was born the achiever. And I have to say that the levels of psychological health for all of these types when I first found this out 25 years ago, I wasn't exactly happy being born attack three achiever, because they can be very driven very much workaholics and do nothing else but work. And on on the higher side of the achiever, is really that is setting goals, getting stuff done, and being very pragmatic. 

So practically, I love to look at communication and people in teams, and you know, how we work together. And that's pretty much at tap threes domain, and achiever I'm guessing is thinking Why run a regular marathon when you could run an ultra marathon? 

Yes, definitely.

 

It's go above and beyond. Exactly. I was party George. 

The number four on the Enneagram is called the individualists they're also a quieter personality tack. And then incredibly creative. Very self expressive, we get a lot of entertainers being this type. 

So I believe Art Garfunkel is this tap and you know, they'll write good lyrics and they they really soulful kind of people. And but there could be creative in other ways. It could be in gardening and cooking in photography and anything else, but they do lean towards a creative and they try and stand out from others and hence the name, the individualist, how am I different and in what way am I different and very good linguist sobu good ability to talk very good ability to tell stories and very, very good linguists. 

So that's the tab for the tab five, are we nearing the end now George, the tab five is called the investigate all. There are also more withdrawn more introverts, and they are the researchers, there are people that are investigating and individually finding new stuff and saying rat, actually, in fact, I think Elon Musk in our lives in America, South African, was born a tab fan. 

So you know, how do we take people to live on Mars? What do we do very differently, you know, and that ability to really measure key, do things vastly, vastly differently because of the mental competence and the ability to research and join the dots which many of us can't join. So incredibly clever people that have has the tag sixes are the most difficult to describe they called the lawyer list, and they can be quite shy and anxious and what if this goes wrong? 

What if it goes wrong? internal dialogues always on you know the glass half empty, but they can also be quite out there and you know making things happen. So they're a bundle of opposites. There could be quite, you know, nervous and there could be quite strong minded. Whatever they are, they're incredibly, incredibly intuitive. 

They can smell, you know, builders coming around the corner. And they are loyal. They are loyal to their marriages, to their workplaces, to their friends, to their hobbies, that hence they're called the loyalist, and then the very last of the Enneagram types, because then we would have done all nine is the top seven, the top seven events, yes, the top seven is out there assertive, where we going, let's make it happen. It's kind of, you know, the Richard Branson I've all the taps. 

And you know, let's start a business can airlines and underwear and makeup and music and wherever. And so trailblazers. So high energy had dynamism, love spontaneity, very versatile, and quite a lot of fun to be around enthusiasts. So there there are in short, none very, very different personality styles and different ways of communicating self managing, really managing the labs in vastly different ways.

 

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