What Message are You Telling Yourself? Terry Tucker

Show Notes

Control your Mind so it Doesn't Control You
Imagine Your Life when you practice smarter self-talk 

Episode 164 (Terry is based in Denver, CO)

In this conversation with Terry Tucker we explore:

  • The self talk journey when facing horrible circumstances

  • How to transition from blame to taking responsibility

  • The positive energy from helping others

  • How to listen to understand

  • Communication lessons from hostage negotiation

  • How to say constructive messages to self

  • Start a new venture with baby steps

  • Where to focus our energy when facing challenging conditions

About our guest, Terry Tucker:

Terry is a former SWAT Team Hostage Negotiator with the Cincinnati Police Department. He has trained with FBI's Hostage Negotiation Team. He's a cancer survivor.  

He is the author of the book, Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life.

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Excerpts from this conversation with Terry Tucker:

And then she looked at me and she said, well, well, Coach, what do you think my purpose is, I said, I have no idea what your purpose is.

But that's what your life should be about finding the reason you were put on the face of this earth, using your unique gifts and talents and living that reason. So that was one conversation.

And then I had a young man reach out to me from college on social media and asked me what I thought were the most important things, he should learn not to just be successful in his job or in business, but to be successful in life.

And you know, George, I didn't, I didn't want to give them that, you know, get up early, work hard, help others kind of not that those aren't important. Those are incredibly important.

And I wanted to see if I could go deeper with them. So I spent some time taking some notes and eventually had these these 10 thoughts, these 10 ideas, these 10 principles. And so I sent them to him. And then I stepped back and I was like, you know, I got a life story that fits underneath that principle, or I know somebody's life emulates this principle.

So literally, I've been battling cancer for 11 years after I had my leg amputated. And before I started chemotherapy, I had a three or four month period where I was healing. I sat down at the computer every day, and I built stories and there were real stories about real people underneath each of the principles. And that's how sustainable excellence came to be.


Most people think with their fears and their insecurities instead of using their minds.

And I know I've done that in my life, Georgia, and I've been like, Oh, I'd like to do this. Oh, wait a minute, you know, Am I smart enough? Or do I have enough information? Or what will people think about me? If I fail in this endeavor that's thinking with our fears and our insecurities, that's not thinking with our minds.

And I always tell especially when I speak in person to young people always tell him if there's something in your heart, something in your soul that you believe you're supposed to do, but it scares you. Go ahead and do it.

Because at the end of your life, the things you're going to regret are not going to be the things you did, they're going to be those things you didn't do. And by then it's going to be too late to go back and do.



Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in executive communication skills. That includes conversation and presentation. He’s fascinated by way we communicate and influence behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.


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